So finals are over for me as of Friday and I'm optimistically terrified about my grades. Now that it's over the waiting begins but I'm not too nervous about it since it's out of my hands now.
To celebrate the end of finals, some friends and I decided to do some drinking to forget the experience. I of course invited the girl I had gone out with a few times, but hadn't seen in person recently due to being busy with studies. My friends meet up with her friends at a yogurt land style bar with a ton of variety of beer. I'm not a big beer drinker myself (I get very nauseous after a pint), but I volunteered to drive so it wasn't a problem. When she shows up she brings along a male coworker which in and of itself isn't a problem. But I've been looking forward to seeing her and getting to talk with her again, so it's rather disappointing and not a little bit frustrating that she spends the entire night getting drunk with him and effectively ignores me. At this point I'm rather confused and wondering if I missed something. So the night continues with them acting close and sharing food etc. Then she invites us back to her place for drinks (it's now around 3am) and her friend very obviously has no way to get back for the night. This problem is brushed off when her friend asks about it and I catch a remark from another about her "choosing". At this point I can take a hint and decide to bow out gracefully while I still can. I get home rather pissed that she showed up when I invited her out with this guy and then proceeded to ignore me all night. We hadn't been out that often and there was certainly no discussion of a relationship let alone exclusivity but I didn't expect her to do this in front of me.
Now I get a text from her apologizing that we never got a chance to talk and saying that she "really wanted to make her coworker feel comfortable". I am so pineappleing confused. I was ready to write her off this morning and let it go peaceably since I really like hanging out with this group of people, but now I'm second guessing my read on things last night and wondering if I leapt to the wrong conclusions.
I enjoyed spending time with this girl and I think our dates went well, but I'm not interested in competing against some other guy. At all. This is way outside my dating experience.
PS I need to buy people Christmas presents!!!
EDIT: So now she's texted me (without prompting) and apologized for not getting a chance to talk to me and that she just wanted to make sure her friend was comfortable since he since he didn't know anyone else there. Now I feel like a presumptive pimento, though I hope she doesn't think so herself. I'm still confused about how things went the way they did but she's leaving tonight to move back to LA since she graduated so it's all moot. I wish I had had a better chance to say goodbye, but it's just as well I suppose.
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