How was your day?

[Razmos]

Things have been going great with my boyfriend, he was super romantic the last couple of weeks, and really sweet on tuesday/wednesday. He said I was the best guy he ever met and that he is really happy with me. I said I was really happy with him too.

The last 2 days he didn't talk to me much, and then this morning he sent me a message on facebook saying he wants to break up with me.

He didn't sugarcoat it at all. He's not feeling it, he never was. He just doesn't find me physically attractive but he "overlooked it" because we had a lot in common.


This came out of absolutely nowhere, and I was really happy and I just can't right now. It hasn't even sunk in yet, I only read it a few minutes ago.

EDIT: Yeah.. it's over.

[zeroforeverintime]

@Razmos I'm sorry to hear that!

Today was rather tiring, even though I have not been doing much work today. (Also I had a random friend request for my battle-net account for Diablo 3.)

[oJavi]

Things have been going great with my boyfriend, he was super romantic the last couple of weeks, and really sweet on tuesday/wednesday. He said I was the best guy he ever met and that he is really happy with me. I said I was really happy with him too.

The last 2 days he didn't talk to me much, and then this morning he sent me a message on facebook saying he wants to break up with me.

He didn't sugarcoat it at all. He's not feeling it, he never was. He just doesn't find me physically attractive but he "overlooked it" because we had a lot in common.


This came out of absolutely nowhere, and I was really happy and I just can't right now. It hasn't even sunk in yet, I only read it a few minutes ago.

EDIT: Yeah.. it's over.

Awww, sorry to hear that I can relate to that, except I've never dated.

[Gymleaders]

Things have been going great with my boyfriend, he was super romantic the last couple of weeks, and really sweet on tuesday/wednesday. He said I was the best guy he ever met and that he is really happy with me. I said I was really happy with him too.

The last 2 days he didn't talk to me much, and then this morning he sent me a message on facebook saying he wants to break up with me.

He didn't sugarcoat it at all. He's not feeling it, he never was. He just doesn't find me physically attractive but he "overlooked it" because we had a lot in common.


This came out of absolutely nowhere, and I was really happy and I just can't right now. It hasn't even sunk in yet, I only read it a few minutes ago.

EDIT: Yeah.. it's over.

The same thing happened to me 2 weeks ago. I entirely feel your pain. :( It was insanely rough on me, and I took it very badly. Just keep your mind busy with video games (I played a LOT of league of legends to keep my mind off of it), or whatever else you'll enjoy. Look forward to the new Pokemon games coming out! Just know there's other guys (and gals) and that you'll find a better one. I went on a date with a guy tonight and things are really looking promising. Just keep your head up.

[Razmos]

Thanks everyone, I appreciate the support :)

The same thing happened to me 2 weeks ago. I entirely feel your pain. :( It was insanely rough on me, and I took it very badly. Just keep your mind busy with video games (I played a LOT of league of legends to keep my mind off of it), or whatever else you'll enjoy. Look forward to the new Pokemon games coming out! Just know there's other guys (and gals) and that you'll find a better one. I went on a date with a guy tonight and things are really looking promising. Just keep your head up.

I messaged my best friend as soon as it happened, and he offered to come over straight away. It's impossible to feel sad playing Mario Kart. I would have been a wreck without him here.

The worst thing about the break up is that it wasn't just the relationship ending. The way he did it was incredibly brutal, he said he felt like he had been lying to me, that he hadn't really felt it all along and saying he wasn't attracted to me either..

He not only ended the relationship, but completely invalidated all the happy memories and all the nice things he said. There was no trace of caring there at all, no "I'm sorry", no "I hope your ok" or anything like that. It was just over.

I'm worried about my relationships in the future now. I thought things were perfect but apparently not. Made me feel crappy about myself too. He wasn't attracted to me but thought my personality could make up for it, but apparently not!

I'm surprised i'm not more devastated by all this. I guess I've developed a thick skin. Or I've just stopped caring.

[Five Second Pose]

I am so goddamn tired. I finished a ten page literature review last week, 10 people were predrinking at our place Wednesday night while I was studying for my audit midterm. One of my roommates drank a third of a bottle of whiskey, passed out on the couch, then threw up in his sleep on Thursday night while I was studying for my audit midterm. On Friday I had my audit midterm then I did the financials for my group's policy case. On Saturday I skimmed 75 pages of literature about income inequality and wrote a few sentences on them, now I'm touching up exhibits for my group's policy project, and tomorrow I'll be doing that since it's due Monday and my other group's managerial accounting case which is due Thursday. After that I have to write an annotated bibliography for another course, write 20 more pages to finish my undergraduate paper, do two more managerial accounting cases, and study for my finals of which I have 3 in 28 hours. It never ends, I've slept about 25 hours the past 6 days.

[Gymleaders]

I'm worried about my relationships in the future now. I thought things were perfect but apparently not. Made me feel crappy about myself too. He wasn't attracted to me but thought my personality could make up for it, but apparently not!

I am in the same boat. When me and Quinn broke up (you might've seen him in some of the pictures of posted), he said some things that really hurt my self esteem. I'm seeing a new guy now, and I noticed my confidence is a lot worse than it used to be. Just know that you weren't right for him, and there are other people, better people. It might seem really bad, but it gets better... I was in the same situation recently. I told my friends I'd never love again lol. I was an emotional mess. Just be who you are, maybe some self improvement here and there like hitting the gym or something, but don't let anyone's rude words get to you. I know it's cliche, but it's the pineappleing truth. You're going to be perfect in someone's eyes, just not his.

[Rick]

One of my roommates drank a third of a bottle of whiskey, passed out on the couch, then threw up in his sleep on Thursday night

Fuckin' amateurs.

[Remoir]

Things have been going great with my boyfriend, he was super romantic the last couple of weeks, and really sweet on tuesday/wednesday. He said I was the best guy he ever met and that he is really happy with me. I said I was really happy with him too.

The last 2 days he didn't talk to me much, and then this morning he sent me a message on facebook saying he wants to break up with me.

He didn't sugarcoat it at all. He's not feeling it, he never was. He just doesn't find me physically attractive but he "overlooked it" because we had a lot in common.


This came out of absolutely nowhere, and I was really happy and I just can't right now. It hasn't even sunk in yet, I only read it a few minutes ago.

EDIT: Yeah.. it's over.

This is pissing me off so much rn its literally like he forgot you had feelings and just pineappleing used you or something. what kind of shallow ass comment is 'i dont find you attractive but i'll overlook it'??????????

Bleh.

[SaptaZapta]

This is pissing me off so much rn its literally like he forgot you had feelings and just pineappleing used you or something. what kind of shallow ass comment is 'i dont find you attractive but i'll overlook it'??????????

Bleh.

Hard to tell without hearing the tone of voice, but he could have meant it as a kind of compliment, or softening the blow. As in "you have such an awesome personality that I really wanted to be with you, despite the lack of physical attraction".

Anyway, just in case you haven't heard enough cliche's, "you're better off without him".

[Razmos]

Just know that you weren't right for him, and there are other people, better people. It might seem really bad, but it gets better...

This has pretty much been my mindset. Now that i've had a couple of days to mope, I can at least understand that the problem lies with him, not me. It's a small comfort, but it is helping.

You're going to be perfect in someone's eyes, just not his.

Seeing this really did make me feel a bit better. thanks :)

This is pissing me off so much rn its literally like he forgot you had feelings and just pineappleing used you or something. what kind of shallow ass comment is 'i dont find you attractive but i'll overlook it'??????????

Bleh.

Indeed, it was a bit messed up. The funny thing is, as much as he was a handsome guy.. he was fat, his body sucked, and he was not the kind of guy i'd usually go for, but I liked him anyway. It became pretty much a non-issue for me.
I was tempted to say that he wasn't exactly my ideal guy either when he broke up with me, but it would have felt like a petty jab if I did.

Hard to tell without hearing the tone of voice, but he could have meant it as a kind of compliment, or softening the blow. As in "you have such an awesome personality that I really wanted to be with you, despite the lack of physical attraction".

Anyway, just in case you haven't heard enough cliche's, "you're better off without him".

It didn't really come across that way the way he said it. He basically said that my personality wasn't good enough to make up for his lack of physical attraction to me, and that the lack of physical attraction became "central" to the problem. It was definitely pretty shallow.

But yeah, now that i'm over the worst of it i'm definitely seeing that it would have been worse had he continued to lie, so i'm definitely better off without him, even if it does sound cliche :P

Thanks for the support everyone, I love this forum.

[Remoir]

i literally feel like he said 'um i mean we have some things in common but like, you're ugly so, i can't hande dis no more'

What a knobhead tbh. Much hugs Matt <3

[VerrKol]

@Razmos; I'm not sure there's any such thing as a nice way to break up with someone, but that's definitely an pimento move. We all try to remember the good time even after a breakup and he tried to take that away which is just not cool. I think at this point you can write him off as a plantain that you're much better off without. It's good that you found out now and didn't have to spend any more time on him. Just think about what good karma you earned by holding your tongue and hope it will pay off when an actually nice guy comes around. You were the better man so major props even if he's to stupid to see it.

So I had date #2 last night and it went amazing! I was a bit nervous after the first one, but we talked non stop at dinner for about two hours about all sorts of things then saw Birdman. The movie itself was terrible, but we both got laughing just trying to figure out why it was so highly rated. We wandered around the then closed mall afterwards window shopping to keep things going despite the late hour and the chemistry really clicked. Oh and did I mention she looked amazing?

I like this girl so much more than I thought I would. We're different but have a lot in common at the same time which makes talking really interesting. There's sort of an expiration date on things since she'll be moving back home to LA after this quarter ends, but neither of us is worried about it and we're just enjoying the way things are going and spending time together. There will definitely be a 3rd date in the future.

[KhainiWest]

Honestly I'm giong to disagree, it was insensitive but it certainly gave closure as to why it couldn't continue. If it was the usual "iffy" dodge explanation of "we're just not for eachother" I'm sure you'd have a lot more trouble accepting it, as if you can fix it. He gave you an unfixable problem, that is based off preference, so I wouldn't see it as him sh`itting all over you but giving you that direct closure so you CAN move on.

Silver lining I suppose

And my best friend just got dumped yesterday too, oi oi oi, long month coming

[Sn1perJohnE]

My interview on Friday went amazingly! I interviewed with everyone that I thought I would, my ceramics professor, sculpture professor, the head of the art department, the other person in the same position, and the admin assistant for the department. It was a pretty straightforward interview, but they asked that I draw up a design for a bench that would potentially be built for the gallery space, and provide an estimated cost for it. Today, they sent an email requesting a release form to be signed in order to contact my references, so I take that as a good sign

[KhainiWest]

Not sure if I said this on here but my job is offering a program where they pay entirely for your college, classes, books, even the gas, to even being able to leave an hour early and not reflect it on your timesheet. Essentially it guarantees a business management certificate which is pretty basic but also half the credits necessary for an accounting B/A degree. The classes are tailored around my job too, so they know what information pertains to us, rather than irrelevant sh`it. They also offer free 20 hours worth of tutoring per semester and they will not ask you to compensate unless you literally fail the class, it has no mandatory grade average, the deal is ridiculous lol.

Anyway I interviewed for it and boy was that a trainwreck. Normally I have the silver tongue of the devil but the guy interviewing (the director ffs) screwed me up so bad. Though to disappoint the people waiting to hear a tragic story where I was put in my place, it was actually the opposite. We had to provide an essay, a letter of recommendation, and proof of registration at the college, unfortunately the first question the director had for me was "So did you provide an essay, or proof of registration", which I emailed like two frekin weeks ago. I explained that, and he just simply said he didnt have it and to continue the interview, which was my work history. By that point my brain just went into chaos, articulate a sentence, it was like screwing up the start in a mario kart race.

Not even 2 minutes into the conversation he interrupts me and says "...Oh, I had the wrong file opened" and there sat ALL MY SH`IT. All of a sudden it was like L, Kira and Lelouche invaded me simultaneously. So by the end of it, the interview completely 360'd, they were stressing how /I/ needed to take this program because it's such a great opportunity. At one point I just said "So how do you want me to beg", it felt like they were more of a marketing team trying to sell me a product rather than interviewing me.

So with all that said, the program starts today, and I'm completely unfamiliar with the area. I think that's all I'm nervous about genuinely lol

[Frostilyte]

Spent half the day fighting with Android Dev Studio, so I wasn't able to get much (any) work on a project done.

I later endured a rant about how my personal opinions regarding my tastes and preferences in videogames are always objectively wrong because they aren't the same as the person who was delivering the rant.
pineappleing fun day.

[Olsi]

I joined my english teacher's clash of clans clan today. God bless

[Fiel]

Another instant spark with a woman. I love it when that happens, especially twice in the same year.

Also, it's confirmed that I'm going to Moscow in December. This is going to be FUN!

[OrionTempest]

I got that stomach flu that's been going around here. ;-;