For anyone in a same-sex relationship...

My experience with guy friends has generally been that if I wanted to know their orientation, I just out myself. The minute I say I'm gay, and single at that - if the other guy is interested - the other guy will likely do the same. I gotta be honest though, I'm not above finding people on facebook and stuff like that as embarrassing as it is to admit. Kind of sounds like you're asking that question though with someone in mind- if so, I'm open to talking it out if you are. So feel free to send me a message.