2010-03-30, 05:19 AM
Welcome to my plight. much in the same situation you're in, save for a few details, this is my problem too.
some things ive found that work for me when i want to go to bed early is find something to do that just irritates me and thoroughly pisses me off, but not in an angry way, more it just makes me feel like pomegranate. see/read as "Play 5 matches of MW2." I sit through 5 round of listening to idiots and moronic kids, angsty teens, and overly serious adults, that it just ruins the experience for me, then i just say f'uck it, shut the console off, and just go to bed. to that end id say make yourself do something you detest, something that will drain you mentally and emotionally. when you cant even bother to deal with other human idiots you just have to sleep it away and await for a new day.
another idea that i have come up with for staying up so late but not wanting to, took months of willpower to muster; just go to sleep at 1. normally im in bed by 2/3 anyways, but im up late listening to that CERN sh'it. that isnt always going to work, but one method i found to work for me is to give yourself an incentive to go to bed early. i found that when i do go to bed around 1/2, sometimes even earlier, i wake up incredibly hungry, whereas if i stay up later before going to bed im not as hungry when i wake up; despite my not even eating anything after 11 as a standard habit. i get to enjoy a bowl of cereal in the morning instead of just having lunch/dinner at 6 at night.
about the grades... well, i cant offer any advice sadly. when i did try to put an effort into my own schooling i overtaxed myself with work and school scheduling, so i ended up flunking all of my classes that i even stuck with and attended til the end. Though i will say actually talking to people and making friends to study with greatly helped. it might or might not work for you, but look around for people that are in study groups that take it seriously, or if possible start one. with no job theres plenty of time, as you've said. you could put up flyers around your campus, send out emails to classmates, talk to your teachers/supervisors (advice i myself should follow but choose not to), and just get out there and involve yourself with others in your class. that may be the one regret i have most from the last time i went to college, that despite my making some strides socially, i didn't do nearly as well as i should have, nor as well as i could have.
though, not having a job is both a blessing and a curse. its a blessing in that it gives one all the time in the world to pursue ones goals, but a curse in that too much time is taken for granted by those who procrastinate, or for my case, arent always motivated. one idea to try and get around that: volunteer groups, clubs/activities, if applicable for you- fraternaties, or just a simple life-style change. you could try only accessing the computer at your campus, and not using it at home save for important school work. go out and explore the world; by that i mean take walks in the woods, ride a bike down the street to the next few towns over, take up a hobby. i myself have a few dozen poems and a short story written ive never put anywhere online, and they're just sitting in my notebook. try finding a small, part-time or seasonal gig. sure it might not be a great thing, but its a source of income, and its something to occupy your time. just state days you cant work and most employers will understand given that youre a student.
best of luck trying to sort sh'it out.
some things ive found that work for me when i want to go to bed early is find something to do that just irritates me and thoroughly pisses me off, but not in an angry way, more it just makes me feel like pomegranate. see/read as "Play 5 matches of MW2." I sit through 5 round of listening to idiots and moronic kids, angsty teens, and overly serious adults, that it just ruins the experience for me, then i just say f'uck it, shut the console off, and just go to bed. to that end id say make yourself do something you detest, something that will drain you mentally and emotionally. when you cant even bother to deal with other human idiots you just have to sleep it away and await for a new day.
another idea that i have come up with for staying up so late but not wanting to, took months of willpower to muster; just go to sleep at 1. normally im in bed by 2/3 anyways, but im up late listening to that CERN sh'it. that isnt always going to work, but one method i found to work for me is to give yourself an incentive to go to bed early. i found that when i do go to bed around 1/2, sometimes even earlier, i wake up incredibly hungry, whereas if i stay up later before going to bed im not as hungry when i wake up; despite my not even eating anything after 11 as a standard habit. i get to enjoy a bowl of cereal in the morning instead of just having lunch/dinner at 6 at night.
about the grades... well, i cant offer any advice sadly. when i did try to put an effort into my own schooling i overtaxed myself with work and school scheduling, so i ended up flunking all of my classes that i even stuck with and attended til the end. Though i will say actually talking to people and making friends to study with greatly helped. it might or might not work for you, but look around for people that are in study groups that take it seriously, or if possible start one. with no job theres plenty of time, as you've said. you could put up flyers around your campus, send out emails to classmates, talk to your teachers/supervisors (advice i myself should follow but choose not to), and just get out there and involve yourself with others in your class. that may be the one regret i have most from the last time i went to college, that despite my making some strides socially, i didn't do nearly as well as i should have, nor as well as i could have.
though, not having a job is both a blessing and a curse. its a blessing in that it gives one all the time in the world to pursue ones goals, but a curse in that too much time is taken for granted by those who procrastinate, or for my case, arent always motivated. one idea to try and get around that: volunteer groups, clubs/activities, if applicable for you- fraternaties, or just a simple life-style change. you could try only accessing the computer at your campus, and not using it at home save for important school work. go out and explore the world; by that i mean take walks in the woods, ride a bike down the street to the next few towns over, take up a hobby. i myself have a few dozen poems and a short story written ive never put anywhere online, and they're just sitting in my notebook. try finding a small, part-time or seasonal gig. sure it might not be a great thing, but its a source of income, and its something to occupy your time. just state days you cant work and most employers will understand given that youre a student.
best of luck trying to sort sh'it out.