This is a little more personal thread than I'm usual posting, and I'll probably be judged, more so than usual.
Anyway, so my best friend of like 10 years got deleted by this girl, we'll call her J, who we've been known for like 4-5 years. It's online while our friendship is real life. I caused the deletion of them both and it's bothering me. It wasn't intentional but well let me give you the background.
J is someone I met on MS, and was very to herself. I mean we talked on skype, msn, what have you. We were good friends and everything, but holding a conversation with her was neigh impossible. Her responses would be 1-2 words, very apathetic, on skype very sarcastic, kind of the same deal. We had a fall out because of someone she online dated. He was another friend of mine, who actually was helping me rebuild my account when I got scammed. Little did I know he was using my account as a pimp system. I liked J as like a best friend, and when I logged in to find out he was essentially playing 8 girls (litterally) we all had a fall out. She stupidly mind you, stuck with him. My best friend still spoke with her throughout it, kind of replaced me at that time. Then she vanished off the face of the Earth, she found out that her "bf" was lieing about a lot of sh`it including his age. They broke up, we started talking again.
We've been talking, all 3 of us, when all of a sudden she tells my best friend she's at some orphanage home thing. i don't know the whole story, J was always two faced and not very honest about things, but her mom had some type of bed ridden cancer, and all she did was sleep all day or something. J got spiteful about it, how lazy she always been and tried to feed her some detergent that resulted in her stomach being pumped. I know the poison part is true as she was sent to a home, internet completely stripped. Her mom eventually passes and shes back in the house with her father's permission. She goes to college gets a boyfriend (ironically with a possessive mother). We both live our lives separately, my best friend and her still close.
My best friend goes to prison for a stupid mall jacking that was supposed to be an april fools prank. His ex friend John, who I have always hated, essentially had a vendetta with one of the mall security and beat the pomegranate out of him. Then he had plans to steal ATM machines with a crowbar (later found after leaving prison, as the pants my friend was supposed to wear had blueprints with all of them in it, to set him up). I spoke with J again because of the incident, and we were the 3 musketeers again.
A month passes and once again her two face attitude shows, I'm talking to her via text and she says "why do even talk to me, stop bothering me". Not even yesterday we were talking. So I said fine, and deleted her. That was Feb of last year. She texted me happy thanksgiving, no apology or anything for ignoring me for 6 months with no warning what so ever. I told her not to text me anymore unless it's an apology. She just said "Wow ok". Then I didn't hear from her until yesterday.
Burning bridges, with inferno nuclear arms.
She's talking to my best friend while I'm on skype with him, him telling me that J is drunk right now and I receive a call from a blocked number. I have two friends who call me on blocked numbers sometimes cus they are using their friends phones. I answer to some slurred chick who claims to be "Amelia" and my ex shotty girl. I immediately recognize the accent and knew it was one of J's friends. I confront her immediately with a cold stern voice of why one of J's friends is calling me. She then starts telling me how I shouldn't be rude to strangers, trying to intimidate me by using my name and even alias I used at the time. At this point I'm pissed, she gave her friend my number to strike some type of conversation later, of course trying to avoid apologizing to me for being an utter b`itch.
At this point I explain to her friend I dislike her, she's two faced, bipolar and so dependent on people feeding her self pity that I want nothing to do with her or her friend(I used "you" in that context). The moment I said that, this peach starts reading me the riot act of how J's is revered by her peers, how I'm worthless, followed by clearly constructed lies of me cursing her out and harassing her randomly. (Yes I know I seem like that type of guy but I managed zero contact with her for nearly a year). Going on about how I "pushed" her away. I'm assuming she met how I told her to f`uck off at thanksgiving. She continues to go on about how her boyfriend even has nothing but good things to say and they've been best friends for like 3 years.
I dropped it. I dropped it so hard that the girl went speechless. I went on about saying how I've known the girl for 5 years, I understand the intention of the call, but I don't think you do. I explained how she uses her friends, who she frequently talks smack about, such as this one "stinky mexican" (ironically was her I was on the phone about) to rebuild relationships. Now before I continue, at this point, what's rolling through my head is "how do I burn this bridge for good" and this happened;
At this point it was an answer lacking confidence. She heard I knew her longer, how she referred to one of her friends as the stinky mexican, (which was her, although she thought I didn't know that), and the alcohol was making her emotional. I hit hard and home with this.
It was a low blow, the lowest I've ever delt on a person. I attempted a double whammy to destroy her so called best friendship and have her real life friend understand the truth about her illegitimate story. The only repercussion I unfortunately saw was her disowning me for good. That part worked, it's the whole disowning my best friend part that caught me off guard. J and him have always been close, he's frustrated because I went too far, I mean he's not mad at me to the fullest extent, just dissapointed in me is the best way to put it. He doesn't really care so much that J deleted him, that was he irrational choice, and she can amend it on her own time, it's the fact I could have avoided the whole thing. But the thing is I didn't, that festering want to finally disown her, I couldn't help myself
So am I an pimento or my situation somewhat understandable, I feel guilty about it, not so much for J but because his bridge was burnt as well..and it wasn't in his control at all.