24-Year-Old Finance Guy Asks All Dates To Complete Survey Afterwards

http://deadspin.com/5910779/24+year+...rvey-afterward

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Last month, we brought you a finance guy's way-too-detailed spreadsheet of the ladies he met on Match.com. A reader who enjoyed that post then passed along this survey she received from a man she briefly dated in Philadelphia.

In the survey—the full thing is below—he asks for feedback on his outfit, his hair, his body, his conversation, his moves. There's this question, too: "Mike is very masculine; at any point did you feel he was compensating for anything?" And, of course, he asks for feedback on the survey itself.

He's a 24-year-old who, yes, works in finance, although not at a bank. Our reader says he's "six feet, overall moderately attractive." They met on OKCupid, went on a couple dates before agreeing not to continue the thing. Writes our reader, "He struck me as a little socially inept hence why I was starting to doubt the 'non-physical' attraction. He wasn't too creepy, just the type of guy who overanalyzes every detail and feels completely awkward in the majority of social situations. It didn't seem like he got out much." And then he sent her this survey.

It came as an attachment to an email subject-lined with a Romeo and Juliet quote (naturally, "Good Night, Good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow, that I shall say good night till it be morrow"). He had told her on their final date that he was into "data collection," but this, she tells us, was ridiculous.

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PSA: THIS is creepy. Please don't do this.

I lol'd. Im pretty sure i've heard of someone doing this before. It's not nessicarly a bad thing, albeit pretty creepy, I'd love it if I could get a report on how stupid I was during a date without having to go on a TV show.

Based on the content of that email it seems like a joke.

perfect for the first date, works as an ice breaker for the second, and gets the women that don't want "the plantain" out.

Poor guy. Makes a joke, no one understands him.

That's funny although I don't have nearly enough nerve to attempt this.

More people needs to do that.

I feel like doing this to someone just to creep them out. x)

oh my
this is pretty funny, I like the "please high-five Mike"/"butt does not need toning" part.

I would draw all kinds of pomegranate at the bottom lol

Yo, I can't believe so many of you actually think this is funny and would consider doing it to others as a joke. I mean, there are people with odd sense of humor, but doing something like this within a few dates, after breaking it off, is pretty weird. Like, this girl was moving on and clearly didn't want to have anything to do with this guy, so why send her this? A joke is only funny if you guys have some sort of connection, like friendship or what not. They're not friends. They're not dating. It's not received as a joke.

So I guess if you really want to do something like this do it with someone you've been in a relationship with for a decent time, so they know you well and you know they'd understand this kind of humor. Communication is only as effective as it's audience reception. Speech 101: know your audience.

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Yo, I can't believe so many of you actually think this is funny and would consider doing it to others as a joke. I mean, there are people with odd sense of humor, but doing something like this within a few dates, after breaking it off, is pretty weird. Like, this girl was moving on and clearly didn't want to have anything to do with this guy, so why send her this? A joke is only funny if you guys have some sort of connection, like friendship or what not. They're not friends. They're not dating. It's not received as a joke.

So I guess if you really want to do something like this do it with someone you've been in a relationship with for a decent time, so they know you well and you know they'd understand this kind of humor. Communication is only as effective as it's audience reception. Speech 101: know your audience.

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I'll do this to my ex, I still talk to him lol Hopefully he doesn't rage. I'll post results later

Except a joke doesn't need to be funny for both parties for it to be successful, @FrozNlite. And I'm sure he did know his audience -- I bet he expected her to tell people about this. Or he told his friends and they all laughed about it together. Kind of seems like you have a stick up your ass on this one. It's not harmful in any way. It's something she could've easily disregarded. If anything, her response is far more offensive since she not only sent this out but started spewing rude observations about him.

Or why not expend your energy on a different joke that doesn't have potential to be construed as creepy as hell? Why do you HAVE to tell a joke that might creep someone out and might make you look bad? And do you know this Mike? How do you know he wasn't sending this seriously? There are people like that out there. I mean, if this is how you want to present yourselves in public then by all means go right ahead, but because of potential interpretations like these it's not worth the risk when there are a million other ways to joke around that won't ruin your reputation.

I would say that if that girl's identity were revealed, this would have a better chance of ruining her reputation. No one likes someone who's uptight and can't take a joke. Even if it is kind of weird. The facts remain that it's not harmful and easily ignored. Only someone with a ridiculous amount of free time who needs something to be peaching about would take up arms for THIS.

Mike is getting high fives. I would probably hang out with him now just to see what he's actually like, and I'm betting I'm not alone in that. His reputation is far from ruined. Especially if he's like what she claims he is -- this sheds a new light on his personality that might not be obvious at first and makes him seem THAT MUCH MORE INTERESTING. Mike is the man.

edit: actually the lesbian thing was in really poor taste but otherwise it's ridiculous to get upset over this.

I like the concept but some of the questions are not going to get unbiased responses.

So I'm gonna go ahead and say that it's a joke and you're taking it too seriously.

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Originally Posted by FrozNlite

Yo, I can't believe so many of you actually think this is funny and would consider doing it to others as a joke. I mean, there are people with odd sense of humor, but doing something like this within a few dates, after breaking it off, is pretty weird. Like, this girl was moving on and clearly didn't want to have anything to do with this guy, so why send her this? A joke is only funny if you guys have some sort of connection, like friendship or what not. They're not friends. They're not dating. It's not received as a joke.

So I guess if you really want to do something like this do it with someone you've been in a relationship with for a decent time, so they know you well and you know they'd understand this kind of humor. Communication is only as effective as it's audience reception. Speech 101: know your audience.

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Are you, perhaps, a feminist?


I found it hilarious. Why? Because I don't sweat the small stuff.

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Are you, perhaps, a feminist?


I found it hilarious. Why? Because I don't sweat the small stuff.

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Yeah, I'm a proud feminist. I strongly support and work for full equality for women because they're, let's see, human, and as much as people may try to say otherwise, at the base of it that's all a feminist is: a person who supports and works for full equality for women. Which, honestly, is a no-brainer in my opinion.

One last comment about feminism: among typical hot-button issues like sexism and unequal pay, I'm also an outspoken advocate for women's equality because of all the bullpomegranate the gender has to endure. As a man, your genitals don't bleed once a month, you'll never have to give birth to children, your society isn't centered around objectifying and hypersexualizing your gender, you don't have as much difficulty with proper excretory and genital health...the list goes on and on.

OT: joke or not, if a guy gave this to me after we had BROKEN. UP. after "a couple dates" and I barely knew him, I would have been glad we ended things before they got serious because I'd have interpreted this as a guy with extensive insecurities and therefore not someone I'd want to date. If you're so self-conscious about something like your hair, then what else are you worried about? That you're not actually attracted to men? And ultimately, why waste the time on someone you're done with if it's just a joke? Go joke around with your actual friends, not people you no longer speak to.

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One last comment about feminism: among typical hot-button issues like sexism and unequal pay, I'm also an outspoken advocate for women's equality because of all the bullpomegranate the gender has to endure. As a man, your genitals don't bleed once a month, you'll never have to give birth to children, your society isn't centered around objectifying and hypersexualizing your gender, you don't have as much difficulty with proper excretory and genital health...the list goes on and on.

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What the hell is this garbage, Dan. Men didn't give women bleeding vaginas and the responsibility of bearing children. What are you going to do, hold a rally against nature? The basic notion of feminism is chivalry when they like it, sexism when they don't.

Sorry I should have explained those further. My point with my "Reasons I'm a Feminist" list is that women have enough pomegranate they have to endure that men don't even have to worry about that being a misogynistic sexist to them on top of it all is just being an pimento.