ARGH Myself.

[xLeviathan]

What the :pineapple: is wrong with me? Every relationship I get in to, I seem to have problems with trusting people. Well, only guys, and I see it makes my girlfriend slightly agitated that I really don't have very good reasons for not trusting some of her friends, but I can't help it! Even when she's in a group of friends and guys happen to be there that I'm weary of, I'm like "Errr...". Yeah, that bad. :(

I hate to think it's that I don't trust her...because I do, or do I? Is it only the guys I don't trust? AUGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. I've been pretty good about changing some of the other negative things about me, but this is one I simply cannot fix. It makes it worse that she will hardly even tell me if it does bother her.

RELATE TO ME AND OFFER ME GOOD ADVICE AND THROW OUT SOME AWESOME ANECDOTES FOR ME TO LEARN FROM, SOUTHPERRY.
:RAGE:.



8r.

[Loose]

So, you don't trust your girlfriend's guy friends? Or at least, you're conscious of them and your girlfriend thinks you don't trust her?

[xLeviathan]

So, you don't trust your girlfriend's guy friends? Or at least, you're conscious of them and your girlfriend thinks you don't trust her?

The former for sure. I'm very conscious of them, and I don't quite know what she thinks to be honest. If she thinks that, she doesn't tell me. She says it's okay most of the time, that she wants to do what makes me comfortable.

The problem with that? I feel like a dick.

[Sarah]

A lot of people are untrustworthy and it's okay to worry, naturally. Just control it and don't go YOU WERE FUCKING JAMES WEREN'T YOU every time your girlfriend isn't with you.

Basically if you've got thoughts but don't have any proof to back them up then it's not worth saying it out loud. Ever.

[Mark]

She'll dump you if you get too jealous of her guy friends. Women love guys with confidence. Getting jealous over guy friends? Not confident.

You'll either lose her if she cheats on you (You're the better person) or if you piss her off to the breaking point. Choose wisely.

[Loose]

Ok. Girls are complicated. : |

With my girlfriend, I don't really care about other guys, because I fully trust her and she knows that and most of her friends are mine. In the beginning, she told me she was glad that I let her be with other male friends, because her last relationship, the guy prohibited her from talking to my group of friends and me; now I just laugh when I see her ex. She was glad and kept asking me "Are you sure you don't get jealous?", I kept explaining to her that no, I didn't because I trust her. I could sorta feel she got a bit upset because apparently, I "didn't care" about her because I was letting her be with other people.

So, I pretended I was jealous one time when she was with other male friends. I told her I was sorta starting to get jealous, she told me that there was nothing to worry about, because she wouldn't do anything out of bounds with them. She became happy with my jealousy and hugged, blah-blah.

Now, I still don't mind when she goes hang out with her friends, male or female, I just tell her to have fun, not to do anything I wouldn't do and completely trust her, not worrying about it.

I think you're fine right now, as long as you don't start prohibiting her from seeing people, you're fine. Just relax, maybe calmly talk with her about this, if you're incomfortable.

Good luck with whatever you do, man.

[xLeviathan]

A lot of people are untrustworthy and it's okay to worry, naturally. Just control it and don't go YOU WERE pineappleING JAMES WEREN'T YOU every time your girlfriend isn't with you.

Basically if you've got thoughts but don't have any proof to back them up then it's not worth saying it out loud. Ever.

No, I would never do that. That's way out of league.


She'll dump you if you get too jealous of her guy friends. Women love guys with confidence. Getting jealous over guy friends? Not confident.

You'll either lose her if she cheats on you (You're the better person) or if you piss her off to the breaking point. Choose wisely.

Some of the guys I think I have plenty of reason to be paranoid, and I think she agrees. But there's others that I apply that concept to that probably don't deserve it.

I think it'd be the latter of the two. I know this is so boyfriend-talk, but if you knew her, you'd know she'd never cheat on anyone. I always thought that trait of trustworthiness was a trait of Oriental women and she's since proven me right. It's really one of the main things I look for and she couldn't possibly make me happier.

EDIT: Jesus, reading Loose's comment now.

OKAY! I've heard that argument before. Where you care too much and then there's the comfortable "I don't mind" but then it's "You don't care enough about me." But anyway, different topic, it wasn't applied to me or anything, I just find it quite funny. :p

We talk about this occasionally, as with everything. I feel like we can talk about anything whenever either of us is bothered by something, so this definitely has come up. If she has ever had a problem with my opinion of them (as long as it's reasonable) she has been totally understanding and okay with it.

I guess I'm probably wrought over nothing but I'm just a bit bothered by my own personality.

[MyTuyet]

You'll either lose her if she cheats on you (You're the better person) or if you piss her off to the breaking point. Choose wisely.

I'm not a cheater.

And I'm not really close to any guy enough for the latter to happen. I get that you don't want me around guys. I don't want you around some girls either.

If you don't want me to hang out with my other (girl) friends for no good reason or it's me you don't trust...Then we have something to be concerned about. But I don't think it's either of that, so we're good, no?

[Mira]

I'll tell you: One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a boyfriend is to prohibit your girlfriend from seeing anyone.

[xLeviathan]

I'm not a cheater.

And I'm not really close to any guy enough for the latter to happen. I get that you don't want me around guys. I don't want you around some girls either.

If you don't want me to hang out with my other (girl) friends for no good reason or it's me you don't trust...Then we have something to be concerned about. But I don't think it's either of that, so we're good, no?

You know I wouldn't do that.


I'll tell you: One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a boyfriend is to prohibit your girlfriend from seeing anyone.

Never without reason. I might be a little more paranoid about guys, but I think it would take a helluva lot of paranoia for me to say "You CANNOT see this person." If I'm ever concerned, she knows.

[FelixTM]

I'll tell you: One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a boyfriend is to prohibit your girlfriend from seeing anyone.

I beg to differ. Keeping her in a cage has worked wonders for me.

[xLeviathan]

I beg to differ. Keeping her in a cage has worked wonders for me.

Tanya Song in a cage? :goggle:.

Cool. :)

[Mark]

I'm not a cheater.

And I'm not really close to any guy enough for the latter to happen. I get that you don't want me around guys. I don't want you around some girls either.

If you don't want me to hang out with my other (girl) friends for no good reason or it's me you don't trust...Then we have something to be concerned about. But I don't think it's either of that, so we're good, no?

Oh shat. You never told me she was a member here.

I'm out of here.

[xLeviathan]

Oh shat. You never told me she was a member here.

I'm out of here.

She only seems to be a member when I post a topic. Seriously. Almost all of her posts are on my topics.

[Loose]

I beg to differ. Keeping her in a cage has worked wonders for me.
If by cage, you mean kitchen, then yes, it works great! : D